Earlier today, I finished reading the latest edition to Oprah’s magazine. Although I rarely get around to reading it anymore, when I do I always find nuggets of information worth holding on to.
This month, there was a feature about “Creating your Luck.”
All my life, everyone has always said “Connie, you are so lucky!” Although that’s nice to hear, after reading this article, I realize that those descriptors are really referring to character strengths I’m “lucky” to possess.
However, reading this article made me realize that I haven’t been living up to my potential in this area lately.
And that’s about to change…
There have been many times in my life when I’ve intentionally created my good fortune. After my divorce, I was adamant about getting back in touch with my lost, creative self. I feel strongly that I created the opportunity to sell a painting to Sotheby’s for the moolah, quit my job, head to NYC, attend NYU’s School of Continuing and Professional Studies, have a hoot all summer long and get that flatline beating again.
In my career, when I was ready to take it up a notch, I made the dream of splitting my time between NYC and MPLS a reality.
After moving to Aspen, I was ready to enter the scene. Before heading out one night, I prayed that I’d meet two funny men that night (yes, I was that specific). Indeed, that night I sat next to Wayne and Gus — two of the funniest men I know — and laughed for six hours straight!
I was hellbent on attending a Chris Cornell concert one night at Belly Up, not so much for the music he made, but for the music I knew I was going to make with the new man I was going to meet. I even dragged my friend Mary there and paid her way b/c I knew that night was the night. It was just a feeling I had.
Low and behold, Frank and I locked eyes and the rest is history. It’s a good thing that “luck” ran out.
So, when Oprah’s article revealed that it’s your positive attitude that makes the difference, not the circumstances, I had to agree.
Yes, you have to create those opportunities for interaction (ie. getting out of your house and going places), but Oprah put this “attitude” theory to the test.
The stage was set: a coffee shop with a crisp $100 bill laying outside the front door. Four single guys sipping coffee (one was a millionaire) inside. The test? Who would find the money and meet someone?
When asked how their trip to the coffee shop was, one woman responded: “Uneventful. Walked in, ordered a latte, read a section of the newspaper, and came home.”
But guess what the guy with the “great attitude” said?
“Great! I can’t believe it. I found $100 on my way there. So I bought the person standing in line next to me a cup of coffee and felt glad I did b/c she’d just lost her job. She’s looking to start a dog walking business though, so I gave her my card and told her to call when it’s up and running. Maybe I’ll be her first customer. Then I sat down and met this millionaire-dude and had the most interesting conversation about doing business abroad, especially in this economy. When I told him what I was up to, he seemed to like the idea and told me to call him next week to hear more. He may have an opportunity that I’d be well-suited for.”
Yes, memories of the days when I wasn’t so rushed or stressed to engage. Well, those days are back as of now.
I’m slowing down to take my time. I’m saying hello with an inviting smile. I’m listening more to my gut, my heart, my friends, and my strangers.
I’m going to re-create my luck, starting now.